Episode 133

I Wish I Could Mother Them Now as the Person I Am": This One's For the Moms in Pure Survival Mode

Michelle records the day after Mother's Day to honor all the moms showing up exhausted, the women who wanted to spend the day alone, and anyone who's ever felt guilty for not soaking it all in. She opens up about the years she's completely blacked out—especially Scarlet's first few years—admitting there were Mother's Days when she dreaded hearing the word "mom" one more time. From the come-to-Jesus moment in Alberta when she realized she needed to move home for help, to crying with Josh about how she used to feel versus how she feels now, to a reel that stopped her cold: "I wish I could experience newborns as the mom I am now."

This is about the survival mode no one warns you about, the guilt of being ambitious when you're supposed to just be grateful, and the mental load of being CEO of everyone's lives. If you're drowning right now or you know someone who is, this one's the permission slip to admit it's hard—and you're not doing it wrong.

Timestamps:

00:00 Honoring All the Mothers

02:15 Entering a New Mom Era (But Still Figuring It Out)

03:14 The Years I Completely Blacked Out

05:18 The Alberta Breaking Point

07:14 The Mother's Days I Dreaded

09:30 "I'm Going to Regret This Someday"

14:37 Loving Your Kids While Following Your Ambitions

18:12 Nobody Prepared Us to Be CEOs of Our Lives

24:22 May-cember Is Coming

25:29 "I Wish I Could Mother Them as the Person I Am Now"

29:33 Survival Mode Moms Need You More Than You Know

If you're in survival mode right now or you know a mom who is, share this episode—sometimes just knowing someone else gets it is the lifeline we need.

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Meet Michelle Stokes, the ultimate multitasking dynamo! As a wife and mother, she knows a thing or two about balancing the chaos of everyday life. But that's not all—Michelle is also a passionate advocate for local women in business, supporting and cheering them on every step of the way. Born and raised on Fogo Island, she brings a vibrant bay-girl energy to everything she does.

Michelle is a visionary & empire builder owning multiple businesses & investment properties. As the co-owner of @sold.by.stokes, she works hard to make a difference and provide opportunities to agents, staff & clients. With a background in nursing, she knows the importance of building trust with clients, a value she carries into her real estate career.

When she's not working, Michelle loves walking, hiking, and exploring new destinations. Her zest for life is contagious, keeping us engaged on social media and inspired to chase our own adventures.

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